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Top 16 Best Sex Positions for Men With Small Penis

No, size does not equal pleasure, but these positions can help optimize your sex physics for maximum satisfaction.

As a certified sex coach and sex writer, I get a striking number of emails from readers asking me if their penis is too small. It reflects a deep insecurity that’s woven into the male psyche about penises and size — that men (and women) are taught that bigger penises are the one thing that makes sex good.

Let’s be super clear here: The idea that bigger penises are needed for sexual pleasure is a myth.

It’s created to body-shame people and to reinforce the idea that men with larger penises (and all people with penises) are somehow more masculine than others. Mainstream porn and the startling lack of sex in the country certainly doesn’t help with this; when there’s no proper sex education, small-penis jokes are cracked in every sitcom and comedy movie, and the only other penises you see are eight-inch wangs in porn, how are you supposed to learn anything other than “size matters?”

Don’t get me wrong: I’m not just saying this to sound body-positive or make anyone feel better. These are facts.

Studies have consistently shown that when it comes to penis size, women (and people with vaginas) generally rank the length of a penis quite low on their list of positive penis characteristics. Girth is the thing that takes the cake. Biologically, this makes sense:

The vagina houses many pressure-sensitive nerve endings, but few touch-sensitive nerve endings, which mean that pressure and a feeling of fullness are what, make the most difference in vaginal pleasure. Also, consider the facts that as many as one in five women consistently experience painful sex (for a range of reasons) and the vaginal canal only measures about 3 to 6 inches long and about 1 to 2.5 inches wide (when not aroused), and it becomes even more clear that bigger isn’t always better — especially for the receiver.

Plus, female orgasm is rarely achieved through penetration alone. The vast majority of clitoris owners have orgasms through external clitoral stimulation, meaning that the penis does not even factor into the female orgasm a lot of the time. If you have amazing hand sex or oral sex skills, it doesn’t matter what you’re working with down there, big or small.

If I’m being perfectly honest, placing so much emphasis on penis size only makes sex worse for everyone. It makes men self-conscious about their bodies and it takes away the clitoral emphasis often needed for female orgasm.

With all that being said, some sex positions are better suited for different bodies. Here, some of the best sex positions for people with smaller penises. Keep in mind that these positions can be used by any penis-owner, regardless of penis size (or during strap-on sex) — but they’re great to maximize that lovely feeling of fullness that many a vagina-owner enjoys.

And, because it needs to be said again: Size does not dictate sexual pleasure.

1. Cowgirl (aka Cow person or Rider)

The classic cowgirl position is tried and true for smaller penises. In this position, the rider (or person being penetrated) gets on top of their partner just like a cowgirl would ride a horse, leg on either side of their body. This position allows for greater control of speed, which can be helpful for keeping a smaller penis from slipping. Plus, the rider can grind their clitoris against the pubic bone or penis of their partner, making it easier to reach orgasm. “Putting a pillow under the giver’s hips tilts their hips upward even more, and can accentuate the deeper penetration,” adds Elle Chase, a certified sexuality educator and director of education at the Los Angeles Academy of Sex Education. (Try any of these sex pillows if you don’t want to use one from your bed.)

Want to get it really going? Zachary Zane, sex expert and brand ambassador for sexual wellness brand Prom scent, says to really get your booty involved “the person riding the penis can spread their butt cheeks with their hands while riding, which allows for deeper penetration. The insertive partner can hold onto the hips of the person riding them to get additional power while thrusting.”

2. Flat Doggy Style

Doggy style is normally a deeply penetrating position. But if your partner has a small penis, it may not feel that way for you. Alter this position by lying flat and bringing your legs together. This allows for a greater sense of fullness. Once again, Zane encourages spreading those cheeks. “The insertive partner can also spread their partner’s butt cheeks apart to help maximize penetration depth,” he says. “With this position, as with all positions, slight tweaks go a long way.”

You can grab your favorite wand vibrator and stick it between your legs, under your body. This way you’re riding it while your partner is riding you. For people who enjoy a lot of friction, this one can take you from zero to orgasm quite quickly.

During any of these positions, you can also try using a vibrating love egg during sex. With the egg up near the cervix, you naturally create a shallower space for your partner’s penis to move. This will allow the vagina to feel fuller.

3. The Shoulder Holder

This position takes missionary to greater depths. Instead of having your legs spread apart, put them over your partner’s shoulders. They can lean into your body for great depth, or hold onto your ankles for more support.

“To help maximize depth of penetration, you can put a pillow behind the receptive partner’s lower back/butt region, to tilt their pelvis slightly upward,” explains Zane. “In this position, there’s really nothing in the insertive partner’s way from penetrating as deep as possible. The insertive partner just needs to scooch up as close as possible to the receptive partner.” (Related: Check Out the Best Sex Position for Your Zodiac Sign)

4. Face-to-Bed Doggy Style

Change up the classic doggy style even further by opting for a chest to the bed position. In this position, your hips should be as high as possible, tilted back, with your chest to the bed. It’s kind of like the ‘child’s pose’ from yoga, but with your butt in the air. Your body is making a “V” shape, back arched. If this is too much for you, you can add some pillows under your chest for support. “The receiver should tip their hips upward and the giver should use their hands to spread the thighs for even deeper penetration,” says Chase. In this position, the receiver’s vagina naturally becomes shallower, which can help it feel more pressure and fullness.

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What’s so fun about this position is the power dynamic. It gives the penetrating partner a lot of control, while the receiving partner takes a more submissive role.

5. Knees to Chest

Yep, you should be in yoga’s “happy baby” position for this one. The receiver lies on their back, knees pulled close to the chest and spread open. The giver can then enter from below. The person on top can use their weight to create friction against the clitoris while offering maximum depth.

“This position allows the penis to enter in a very direct and intense way, and also generates friction with the clitoris, provided that the person on top is well supported,” says Mia Sabat, a sex therapist with Emjoy, a sexual wellbeing audio app for women.

You can even bring a toy into the mix. Try something on the smaller side, such as a finger vibrator — I love the Dame Fin (Buy It, $85, dameproducts.com) or the Maude personal massager (Buy It, $45, getmaude.com). Both are easy to maneuver and blessedly gender-neutral.

6. The Sideways Ohm

The receiver should lie on their side with their knees bent in front of them. The giver then kneels with both knees directly behind the receiver’s butt, entering from behind. “From here, the giver can hold onto the hip to assist with balance or for better leverage when thrusting,” says Chase. “The receiver can lift their outer leg up to try a different angle if they like.” (Related: Why You Need to Add the Spooning Sex Position to Your Go-Tos)

This position is great for three big reasons when it comes to intercourse: It compresses the vaginal opening for more friction, allows the giver to manipulate the butt cheeks, thigh, and legs for better access, and allows for an unusual angle of entry, providing a unique sensation for the receiver.

“This position allows the penis-haver to thrust their full length into the receiver, and frees their hands to manipulate butt cheeks and labia to their liking as well as provide clit access,” adds Chase. “This position can also be re-adjusted in myriad ways depending on what kinds of sensations one is looking for.”

7. One Big Leg Up

The penetrated partner should lie on their back, lifting one leg and supporting it on their partner’s shoulder. The other leg should remain on the bed. The penetrating partner then gets on their knees and penetrates, holding the shin of the raised leg with one hand and the knee of the straight leg with the other. This position allows for a lot of mobility. If straightening your leg is painful, trying bending the knee a bit. (If you don’t have a bed handy, you can do this position on a table, too. Or try these creative chair sex positions.)

“The angle at which the legs are spread, and the elevation that is achieved when raising one leg, allows the penis to enter very deeply. This position also means that both people can caress other parts of the body during penetration, ensuring pleasure,” says Sabat.

8. Get on top and grind.

Porn stars usually bust out a thrusting or pounding motion, but Baldwin suggests grinding instead. “This works well with the vulva-owning partner on top, face-to-face with the penis-owning partner,” she explains. “Bring your bodies close together so that you aren’t too perpendicular — a smaller penis may slip out if you aren’t close enough. The vulva owner can then get comfortable, position their pelvis on the penis, and grind their body against it.” Move your hips back and forth or even try some spirals.
Not only will grinding hit the external hot spots of the vulva, but it should benefit your partner’s pleasure as well. “Because the head of the penis has the most nerve endings, it will get plenty of action even with this adjusted position,” notes Baldwin.

Gigi Engle, SKYN Sex & Intimacy Expert, certified sex coach, sexologist, and author, seconds this move and recommends putting a pillow under your hips for a bit of extra lift, which can offer a feeling of deeper penetration. You can also spread your butt cheek during the ride to engage even more nerve endings and sensation, she notes.

9. Bring your knees to your chest.

Rachel Sommer, Ph.D., a clinical sexologist and co-founder of My Sex Toy Guide, recommends lying on your back with your legs wide open, pulling your knees toward your chest. Your partner can then kneel in front of you and enter you from above. “This position allows for a direct approach to penetration,” she explains. Plus, it leaves room for clitoral stimulation. If your partner holds your thighs in place, you can add a clit vibe to penetration.

10. Do this twist on doggystyle.

You probably already know that doggy style lends itself to deeper penetration. If your partner has a smaller penis, you can get a greater sense of fullness by altering this position and lying flat while bringing your legs together, advises Engle.

“You can grab your favorite vibrator, and stick it between your legs, under your body, so you’re riding it while your partner is riding you,” says Engle. (She likes SKYN’s Thrill for this.)

If you’re a fan of a lot of friction, this move can set you up to achieve an orgasm fast.

11. Try missionary with one leg up — or even two.

Natasha Riley, a licensed professional counselor and certified sex coach, recommends lying on your back with one or both legs on your partner’s shoulders. By getting your leg(s) out of the way, you’ll set the stage for deeper penetration. “This is a super romantic position that allows for eye gaze and passionate kissing,” she explains.

You can also add height to the hips with a cushion or pillow to bring you even closer to your partner, explains Riley.

12. Use a vibrating love egg.

Egg vibrators, like LELO’s LYLA 2, are inserted into the vaginal canal and can sit up near the cervix. Adding one to partnered play can create a shallow space for your S.O.’s penis to move, points out Engle. “This will allow the vagina to feel fuller,” she points out.

13. Go for a reverse ride.

While your partner lies on their back, you can slide onto the penis while facing their feet, advises Riley. If you bring your legs closer together, you’ll have more control over the depth of penetration. “This position is visually appealing for the man and allows for the woman to have easier access to stimulate her clitoris for heightened pleasure,” she explains.

Your partner can also place a cushion or pillow under the small of their back to create a tilt and lift of their pelvis, which results in a greater feeling of fullness.

14. Go for the shoulder holder.

Consider this one next-level missionary. “Instead of having your legs spread apart, put them over your partner’s shoulders,” explains Engle. “They can lean into your body for great depth, or hold onto your ankles for more support.”

15. Have Her Put Her Legs Up

If getting deeper inside her is what you crave, ask her to put her legs over your shoulders in the missionary position. “This allows for greater sensation and pleasure, notes Manischewitz. You can also try having her lay with her butt on the edge of the bed or couch, legs up. “When you enter her in this position it can maximize what you’ve got,” says Levine, adding “you basically want vaginal access without obstruction of other body parts.”

16. Let Her Climb On Top

Another position worth trying is woman-on-top. “It’s one of the best strategies for a guy with a smaller penis, as it allows the woman to maximize her partner’s length and position him in a way that feels good to her,” explains Levine. “It also gives you (or her!) the ability to stimulate her clitoris—which is often needed to reach the big O.” To make sure you don’t slip out as she’s ridin’ dirty, have her rock and grind against you, rather than move up and down, advises Fleming.

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